And so she dances….
Every grandmother dreams that her granddaughter will have all her dreams come true. Every grandma wants her granddaughter’s life to be picture perfect from start to finish, so it was on Dec. 1st 2007 with Ava Alysee Glasmeier, my second oldest grandchild, only granddaughter.
She was born perfect, all five toes and fingers on each hand and foot. She had no health issues at birth, an adorable smile, a perfect shaped head and a loving mommy and daddy. She grew and progressed according to all the norms set by pediatricians all those growth charts new parents go by, and grandparents follow closely too.
But her little life, with the passage of time, has seen its own little set of challenges but not one has set her back. She has seen her daddy work very hard to get not one but two dental practices thriving. Two brotherswere born and then diagnosed with autism. This meant Ava had to be extra loving and caring to both her brothers. It also made her diligently watch her mommy make more sacrifices than most moms to care for both boys and balance that with a marriage and her, Ava’s needs. This has not always been easy, not on any of them, but no one complains in the household and they fully embrace their lifestyle and each other.
All through this there remains this happy good natured little girl just as perfect in Grandma’s eyes as can be. Never has she varied from the little newborn, the toddler and the now second-grader that is smiling, cracking me up with personality plus.
When Ava first went into school and she found she had a few challenges there. She approached each with spirit and fiestiness and her can doattitude just like she does everything else in her life. Not much gets my granddaughter down in the dumps, not for long anyways. She is too up on life, if there is such a thing as being too positive! Her spirit soars, Ava makes lemonade somehow without lemons.
When her mother put her in dance classes, she laughed with excitement. As soon as Ava could walk it seems she was twirling, bypassing walking to dancing. I can still hear her mom asking to stop dancing all around the house! Actually Ava danced anywhere, she did not care who was around. She was the little girl with free abandonment, with her movement and her ability to let you know what she was thinking. So refreshing in a world full of repression where families forbid each other to say what their feelings truly are and people criticize each other for not saying “the right thing.” Ava is being raised to speak her mind, respectfully and being allowed to be herself at all times, uniquely her.
It is amazing how someone so young can feel so free from the world’scritical eyes. This young girl could care less what you think of her dancing, of her family too. She loves them dearly, loves dancing and enjoys life. She doesn’t want what others have; she is satisfied with what God has given her. This young girl can care less what others think and dance.
Too often people don’t listen to children. Too often adults think children are expendable and that they are the teachers, they impart knowledge to children. It is often times forgotten there is a child in all of us and we lose touch with that innocence we once had, that ability to dream, to be free and yes, to even dance. Being with Ava is a lesson in letting go, in being grateful for what you have and in living passionately without caring what others think.
With a love of being free to express her inner spirit and fire, yes my granddaughter loves to dance. She likes moving her body and does it well. Ava is unlike most people I know, children or adults. She has no fear or concern whether her dancing is the best or perfect. She does the best she can do and that pleases her. Her love and passion is what matters when she steps on the stage. She is doing something fun, that makes her smile and gives her joy. The lesson in life she can teach us all is life live with choices that give you that, joy, smiles and laughter. Don’t worry what others think, let them wallow in their own worries, you concentrate on your passion, your dance in life.
My granddaughter roots others on with a sincerity I seldom see in others. Most little girls are jealous of other people that dance better and watch with sorta of a nasty undertone of envy. Not my Ava, she watches with song in her heart and pure adoration. Yes, she acts proud of their accomplishments. She says to me “Grandma watch how great she is!” with as much glee in her voice as she can muster! She continues to improve and tries to get better but seems to evaluate her progress on herself.
Perfection is in the eye of the beholder and reality does not exist. We simply try to strive for it though shouldn’t. Grandparents are given the luxury of sitting back and being permitted to call their grandkids beyond reproach, damn near perfect and thus it is with my dear Ava. My granddaughter comes pretty darn close.
Being able to accept others and cheer them on without a thread of jealous is a gift. She has that. Living your life without being confined by thejudgment of others is a blessing. This blessing shows that a life may be guided by passion and confidence given by God and family is a hallmark of someone who will succeed in always finding happiness at the end of the road. Having compassion for others innately inside yourself and continually exhibiting it is a true sign of someone who understands actions speak louder than words. Success means nothing if not shared. My granddaughter, even at her tender age, is truly caring for her two younger brothers already and carries that compassion over to those that she meets that are hurting. I don’t just believe I know the signs are there, she will set the world on fire. But I also believe you can. As long as you are never afraid to close your eyes, throw back your head and dance, nomatter who is watching!
And so she continues to dances, even in the darkness of her bedroom, when no one is watching with the same joy on her face as she has on the stage…..